My use of Social Media started years ago when I joined Facebook in order to create a Business Page and use it solely for Marketing. Like millions before me I discovered that there was no way to disconnect the Personal Life from Facebook… eventually I stopped fighting the connectivity and embraced it as a way to connect with far flung friends & family and market my business.
It took me a lot longer to embrace Twitter. I signed up for an account years ago, but after my first few visits I was overwhelmed; it was like going to a family reunion where everyone knew each other and EVERYONE had A.D.D. So, like many before me, I connected my Facebook feed to my Twitter account (a practice I do not advise unless you NEVER intend on Tweeting) and ignored the monster.
Eventually I realized that I needed to seriously get my hands around how Twitter works; it may not have nearly as many users as Facebook but I knew I was shortchanging my growing client list by leaving it out of their Social Media plans.
So I jumped in and did what I was told: I LISTENED first.
Eventually I made a few ‘friends’ that shared common interests: Women in Business Issues, Social Media as a Marketing Tool, and my greatest love: Sarcasm. In order to get more connected I started using the Who To Follow option and soon I was trying to consume everything from ESPN feeds to the Wall Street Journal. I followed and followed and followed until I broke Twitter.
Or at least I thought I did.
I hit a wall I didn’t know existed – the Following 2000 mark. My ‘following privileges’ were revoked. I was stunned.
In order follow more fascinating people, I’d have start culling my list. Hmmm…. I had never considered that the gates would be shut and I’d be forced to do this, but I had no choice.
So I went back to the very first people I’d followed. I quickly found that there were literally hundreds of people I couldn’t recall. Hundreds more I’d never had an interaction with. Soon I’d unfollowed enough people to give myself a nice comfortable following-to-followers ratio and I didn’t have to weigh the decision so heavily before I clicked the Follow Button.
Just when I thought I’d settled back into a groove, Chris Brogan’s The Great Twitter Unfollow Experiment of 2011 occurred and all hell broke loose.
Well, not really, but it sure seemed like that to some of the Tweeps Chris unfollowed. They were hurt. They were angry. They were vengeful. Some of them begged to be Re-followed.
I watched with fascination as my mind crystallized around the fact that THIS WAS SO PERSONAL TO SO MANY.
I had seen Twitter as a TOOL to learn, research and distribute ideas. Now I realized that it was more like the telephone than the megaphone if you used it properly.
Since then my entire approach has changed. I’ve made Twitter FRIENDS and have real, longer-than-140-character-conversations. I’ve discovered that the conversation is much better than the Broadcasting capability. I follow #SocialChat on Monday evenings because it gives me an hour with people fine-tuned into what I care so much about. I stopped worrying about knowing everything that’s going on and instead I check in with Tweeps I know provide good information and conversation.
In other words, I’m becoming a Twitter Grown up.
Just like every other communication tool, it takes a while to figure out how it works, and how it works best for your own goals and interests. One day, when I’m a Twitter Elder, I’ll look back on this post and realize how little I knew then.